Quitting Porn

Quitting porn is possible.

Completely stopping a porn habit probably seems like an impossible goal. You’ve likely tried to quit again and again, only to fall back into the snare of shame pornography brings once again. You’ve probably vowed “one last time” countless times. And every time you fail the feelings of defeat and self-loathing grow stronger. An inevitable cycle that feels like a lifelong struggle – but things can be different.

Freedom Fight is not another “try again” or “try harder” effort. It is a proven recovery solution that blends brain science, biblical wisdom, and clinical practices to help men and women find lasting freedom from porn. Our program works because of our holistic approach to the recovery process, with principles that help you grow across all aspects of life, not just quit your porn habit. You’ll get breakthrough insights, practical tools and step-by-step training along your journey to freedom. For anyone ready to stop watching porn and take control of your life, Freedom Fight will be your guide.

Overcoming a porn addiction may be the hardest thing you’ll ever do, but it will unlock a life you thought was impossible. We can lead you on a successful journey to a life free from porn. Defeat is not inevitable. You can quit porn, and it can truly be different this time.

How To Know You’re Addicted

Why Porn Use Is A Problem

Porn is impacting your life, your sex life, your brain, and your relationships much more than you think. It may not seem like a big deal or an urgent problem, but pornography is a sneaky, silent killer of good things in your life. If you don’t quit a porn habit, you’re making way for the slow death of many emotional, relational, spiritual and even physical aspects of life.

The slow death of relationships and marriages.

Porn is mentioned as a significant reason in 56% of all divorces.

The slow death of healthy sexuality.

People who watch porn are less satisfied with their sex lives than those who don’t. Porn use has also lead to many men experiencing early erectile dysfunction.

The slow death of a heart for God.

Those who view pornography more often reported lower levels of closeness to God and higher levels of religious doubts.

A slow death of a positive self image.

Pornography use has also been associated with depression, feelings of low self-worth, shame and guilt, among with many other negative emotions.

What is a Porn Addiction?

When someone desperately wants to stop their porn use because they see it as harmful, and they’ve repeatedly tried to stop it but can’t, it may be an addiction. This can mean that the brain has actually been changed in such a way that this behavior is locked in and feels it has become unstoppable. Many people see no problem with their porn habit so they’ve never really tried to stop. But once they experience something like PIED (Porn-Induced Erectile Dysfunction) or marriage struggles they try to stop and simply can’t.

If you’re unsure whether or not you have a porn problem or addiction, you can take this quiz to see where you’re at. Whatever you end up wanting to call it – a habit, an addiction, a problem – defining and acknowledging your porn use is the first step towards finding freedom.

Why Do People Get Addicted?

When the brain becomes addicted, it is like creating a path through overgrown woods. The more a trail is walked on, the more worn it becomes, and the easier it is to travel it. When you repeatedly use porn, this becomes your brain’s go-to pathway to respond to certain triggers. You need a guide to help you build a new path.

Our program addresses 6 specific root causes of porn addiction:
Sexualized Society

Sexual triggers are all around us in our sex-saturated culture. We also coach you to identify your triggers, establish boundaries, and keep temptations to a minimum by blocking access to pornography. Detoxing and stopping the unwanted behavior is an important starting point.

Isolation

Porn is fake intimacy. It’s a place you can go to feel wanted and close to someone. Those who don’t experience fulfilling intimacy in their personal relationships are more tempted by porn. Using porn typically results in further isolation from God and others because of guilt and shame. But you are not in this alone.

Addicted Brain

Like other drugs, pornography hijacks the brain’s reward system and gives you chemical boosts for this behavior. Your brain craves this chemical reward of dopamine, which keeps you stuck in the cycle of porn use. We help your brain heal and create new pathways that don’t rely on porn.

Negative emotions

When you medicate an emotion like stress or insecurity with porn use, that emotion becomes a trigger that keeps you coming back for more. Learning to identify these emotions and label them as triggers is essential. You’ll grow in emotional awareness and learn to process—not medicate—your emotions

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Shame

Guilt says, “I have done bad,” but shame says, “I am bad.” There is a self-hatred at the core of shame. It is toxic and can become someone’s identity after years of failing to quit an addiction. We’ll help you overcome shame and show you how to live out of an identity in Christ.

Trauma

The negative emotions and shame that a person feels compelled to medicate with porn are often fueled by trauma. Trauma implants lies in a person’s mind that keep them stuck. We will show you how the truth can set you free.

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Are you addicted?

Many sex addiction therapists use a tool called the SAST (Sexual Addiction Screening Test). It is a simple, 20-question test that has been taken by tens of thousands of people. The test is more than 90% accurate in predicting sexual addictive tendencies in a person. This is an objective tool that can help you start understanding and embracing the reality of where you truly are.

Click Here to Take the Test

Why quit porn?

Quitting porn will likely be one of the toughest challenges you ever overcome. It’s important to keep your reasons for wanting to quit in the forefront of your mind. Whether you call it an addiction or just a bad habit, the fact is that your life is being negatively affected by porn use. Here are some of the many reasons men and women come to Freedom Fight to quit using porn.

Marriage and Relationship Problems:

Many relationships are strained and often fail because porn use created problems within the relationships, both sexually and otherwise. Whether it manifests as guilt, anger, distance, intimacy issues, tensions will eventually rise when a partner or spouse is using porn.

Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction (PIED):

Young men are losing the ability to enjoy real sex because of re-shaped desires and expectations around sex and masturbation. Before internet porn only 5% of men under forty suffered from E.D. Now, 33% of men under forty have this struggle. (Time magazine, need cite)

Genuine Addictive Dependency:

Dopamine is the pleasure chemical the brain releases when a person experiences something enjoyable. The dopamine high that drug addicts seek is the same dopamine high that porn addicts chase. Porn creates a chemical dependency in the brain. For some it’s mild. For others, it is significant.

Mental Health Issues:

Porn artificially raises the baseline level of dopamine in the brain. Without this rush, you’re left feeling down and depressed. Isolation, shame and self-hatred run rampant among porn users. Married and single, men and women alike can experience these negative feelings, which can fuel other mental health challenges.

Distance from God:

Research shows that Christian men and women who use porn see a decline in their religious practices (like going to church and praying) and an increase in doubts about faith. Christians are also significantly less likely to serve in their church or to talk to their kids about faith if they use porn. Porn “wages war against the soul” (1 Peter 2:11).

Imagine being free from porn, leaving the fear of these consequences behind. You can be the real you, feel in control, and deepen your relationship with God and others. You can live a life without guilt, shame and lies. There’s no better time to start your journey and break free from porn. Now is your chance to make a real change.

How You’ll Grow

Addressing the 6 roots of addiction and taking action to change leads to exponential growth. When you address sexualized society you’ll grow in holiness. When you reject isolation you’ll find authentic community. Confronting the addicted brain will renew and transform your mind. You’ll grow in emotional intelligence and resilience, instead of medicating negative emotions. You’ll overcome shame by learning to live out of your identity in Christ. And you’ll heal from trauma by accepting God’s truths.

Root of Addiction    Area of Growth

The sexualized society    Pursue personal purity

The addicted brain    Renew the mind

Isolation    Develop authentic relationships

Negative emotions    Process emotions and grow in emotional intelligence

Shame    Living out of an identity in Christ

Trauma    Replacing lies deposited by trauma with truth

God wants to give you more than just freedom. He wants to use the process of breaking free to help you grow and develop in key areas of life as a whole person. If you are ready to outgrow porn, you are ready for freedom.

What Does Freedom Look Like?

Is true freedom even possible? Maybe you are doing better than you ever have and you’re wondering if that is good enough. What’s your definition of freedom?

  1. No acting out for a period of two years.
  2. Establishing healthy relationships and habits in your life.

This requires addressing the roots of addiction and adopting a new lifestyle. You don’t have to settle for less. We can help you get there.

How Freedom Fight Works

A porn habit will always return if the 6 roots of addiction roots are not addressed. Confronting these roots requires growth and development in key areas of one’s life.

The Freedom Fight systematically works through each of the 6 roots of addiction, giving a scientific, gospel-centered and clinical approach to recovery.

You can go through the Freedom Fight program individually or in a small group. Going through individually doesn’t mean going through it alone. You’ll have accountability partners of your choosing and the guidance and resources of our program.

We encourage people to go through the FF in a small group if at all possible. We have a leader’s guide, discussion questions and other small group resources to make it easy to facilitate. With our help, whether you’ve personally had a porn addiction or not, you can lead an effective FF recovery group.

How to Quit Porn
1. Facing Reality

Christians struggling with porn use often live in denial. We minimize, rationalize and even compartmentalize our struggle. We have learned to lie to ourselves and others. But people cannot break free from porn until they admit they have a problem. Overcoming denial is the essential foundation for freedom and is the fastest way to healing (James 5:16). This means being honest about relapses, prioritizing truth over image, and avoiding excuses. We witness significant progress in this phase.

2. Developing New Skills

We teach tools and skills that address each of the six roots of addiction. Change won’t happen unless the new skills are truly learned through application. We provide methods and tools that help you shut off access to porn, maintain accountability, grow in emotional intelligence, respond correctly to a relapse, and many other essential skills. New skills lead to new behavior and habits. When these new behaviors and practices are anchored to new convictions rooted in the Bible, a new lifestyle can be established.

3. Rebuilding the Mind

The brain changes as we learn and grow, even as adults. These changes happen by building new neurological pathways in your brain. We teach people to replace the damaging pathways built by porn with new, positive pathways. Rebuilding the mind also involves replacing lies learned through porn and trauma with the truth of an identity in Christ. Instead of living an identity of shame, we can learn to live out of an identity rooted in Christ. As Jesus promised, “You will know the truth, and the truth will make you free” (John 8:32).

How We Guide You to Freedom

The Freedom Fight uses technology, video, reflection and community to lead you through the phases of facing reality, developing new skills and building a new mindset.

Quality Content

You’ll get quality content at every stage through fifty plus videos, bible study worksheets and other resources. Online content is available through our app and website which are completely synced.

Easy Accountability

Accountability is made simple and convenient through our App. You’ll check in daily with your accountability partners of your choosing, and they’ll have a quick, easy way to respond.

Leader Resources

The leaders resources we offer make it easy to guide your own FF recovery group. Leaders can get valuable insight into each member’s daily progress and check-ins through their dashboard on the App or website. The Leader Dashboard also gives analytics that help you see patterns of behavior impacting group members recovery, with access to both private and group chats.

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